Whitney Houston

First, I have to admit that I am pretty disgusted with some of the comments that people are making regarding Ms. Houston's death.  Our society is turning into a bunch of heartless, gutless barbaric turds!  She may have died from an OD, we don't know yet.  My point being that even if she died from a drug overdose, she was still a human being.  She was someones daughter, someones mother, etc.  Many people have this attitude that if you are an addict or alcoholic, you deserve to die.  That there is a subject that I may dive into one day.  I've been somewhat avoiding it though, because there is no way I could possibly contain my opinion to one blog entry.  It would definitely be a multiple blog entry.

I am a fan of Whitney's music and acting.  In fact, Waiting To Exhale is one of my favorites.  With that being said, I would say I'm just a mediocre fan of hers.  She had a phenomenal voice and was a beautiful woman.  I just was never what I would call a huge fan.  Would I have went to see one of her shows?  Probably not.

There's also the fact that Ms. Houston could be a fantastic BITCH!  (And not in a good way.)  Very Diva-esque.  I've heard some of the insane demands that she would bark at people.  Meh, whatever.  I won't elaborate more on that because I don't like to speak ill of the dead-primarily because they aren't here to defend themselves.

I will have to admit that I became hooked on the reality series Being Bobby Brown when it was on.  Bobby and especially Whitney were RAW in it.  To the point of hilarity.  Her public persona used to be this classy entertainer.  Once that show started to air-girl went GHET-TO!  Like they say, you can buy lotsa things but ya can't buy class!

I do feel bad for Ms. Houston's family, especially her daughter Bobbi Kristina.  Hopefully she will find the strength that she needs to get through this.  She's only 18 years old.  That is such a tough age to lose a mother.

It will be interesting in the coming weeks to find out what the official cause of death was.  Like I said earlier, even if it was attributed to drug abuse; did she really get what she deserved?

Fricking Family

I SWEAR what they say IS true about family.  All the sayings about how they can be a pain in the ass, ya can pick your friends but not your family, etc.  In all of my 42 years, I will never understand mine.  (Some members, anyway.  Others I understand all too well.) 

 Forever Family in Italian

I received bad news about my older cousin L who is an end-stage alcoholic.  She now also has end-stage liver failure and it was told to me that "she would be gone by the end of the year."  Now this is no surprise to me-not the way her health has been in such decline.  She has had detox after detox and each time the health care professionals say that she will be dead if she goes back to drinking.  When you know much about alcoholism, you learn to take that kind of thing with a grain of salt.  Yes, sometimes they do die after the next drink.  Sometimes they go on for years.  I have no idea why and neither do the so-called professionals.  Probably comparable to the same way some people can linger on with a terminal cancer while others succumb to it rather quickly.  And that right there is one of my main theories behind how our society needs to treat alcoholism like a type of cancer.  I don't mean biologically, but rather pathologically.  I'm convinced that there are different types of alcoholics as there are different types of cancers...thousands even.  Thus, there are hundreds of different types of treatments.  I think that we are in our infancy stages where alcoholism treatment/cure is concerned.  Although, there are some awesome strides being made in research these days.  Still, we are far from aggressive treatment and a cure.

Where was I going with this?  Oh yeah.  L really has no one.  Her mom and brother live halfway across the country.  My uncle (her dad) lives close to her but it might as well be a million miles away.  For whatever the reason their relationship is pretty estranged.  I have my theories and I feel that they both are to blame.  She has no friends and has lost her long time companion a couple of years ago.  They were never married but might as well have been.  

She's not "old" either.  At least I don't consider 50-something old for dying of end-stage alcoholism and liver diseased.  I've been wanting to go visit with her for quite some time now but am pretty limited in where I can go.  She lives an hour's drive from me.  Right now L is in the hospital but will be transferred to a nursing home soon-where she will go to die.  She had two other brothers that are deceased-suicide.  Unfortunately this is a family trait along with the alcoholism issues.  True be told, I think she wants to die but doesn't want to outright do it like her brothers did.  

I understand that family has to detach from the alcoholic, really I do.  I found myself in that situation before.  But there is a difference from detaching in a healthy way and total abandonment.  My aunt (her mother) has not been made fully aware of her condition.  In my opinion this is wrong.  I understand that my other cousin is just trying to protect their mom.  God knows the woman has had enough drama in her life.  With that being said, it still is her daughter and she deserves to be told.  What if L dies before my aunt could see her and say goodbye.  

The other one who cares about L is my aunt C.  Actually L is my second cousin but I just refer to her as my cousin in the hopes to keep it from getting so confusing.  (I'm probably making it worse)  My aunt C and cousin L are first cousins and close in age.  Apparently they were very close growing up also.  

I just cannot stand to see anyone die alone.  That has got to be one of the worst things in the world.  Nobody deserves that.  I think between my aunt C and I, we can at least be there for L in her last days.  

Like I said before though, I just don't get it.  Its as if most of the family says "Oh yeah L is drinking herself to death.  She'll be dead soon enough and we'll be rid of her."  They don't actually say that word for word but its the attitude they project.  

The older that I have gotten the less I judge.  I've found out the hard way that you just never know what you will do until you are put in someones same situation.